Monday, 5 June 2017

Mental Health Mondays #3 : The Thing with Depression...


Last week I didn't write a post because it was my main week of exams and I was Cramming As Heck but the exams went okay so yippee! This week, honestly I have very little motivation for anything and I can't keep myself focussed on anything for more than about 10 minutes. For this reason, this week I'm going to embark on a depression-related ramble and just see what happens. I'm hoping it will help me clear my head slightly and maybe someone will read it and gain something, who knows!

Anyone who knows me will tell you that I'm quite an organised individual, I LOVE lists, I love structure and it's for this reason that I function much more successfully in times when I have stuff that I need to be doing.
As I said, exam season has just come to a close for me but the past 3 or so weeks have consisted of almost constant revision, and although it has been spectacularly boring, it's given my days structure and has been a bit of distraction from other things which have been lurking in the back of my mind.

Monday, 22 May 2017

Mental Health Mondays #2 : Things not to say to someone who's struggling

So this is something that should be obvious and yet I (and I'm certain I'm not alone) have several experiences of people 'helping' when they find out I have mental health difficulties. Here's my top 5 of Things Not To Say To A Mentally Distressed Person, along with a few tips on what might be the correct thing instead.

"Just talk to people!"
As someone who experiences social-based anxiety, particularly in group situations, I've heard this a lot but honestly that's the whole point. If I felt able to join in with the convos I would do, but I?? Can't??
Pro tip: if you have a friend who has this problem take the step to introduce them into the conversation so that they don't have to do it themselves, for me it's the first sentence that I feel unable to initiate and it gets easier once I'm involved.

Monday, 15 May 2017

Mental Health Mondays #1 : Self Care with Sar


Disclaimer: These are a few things I've learnt through my journey with mental health issues, please be aware that these are from my experience and they often help me but this doesn't mean that they'll work for everyone as each person is different! Also, by no means am I trying to imply that mental distress can be "fixed" with these methods, only that these things help me to cope with my mood changes.

It's no surprise for me to say that looking after yourself is very important, and when you're struggling with your mental well-being even very basic self care can seem like the hardest thing in the world to do. As someone who frequently experiences very sudden drops in mood and difficult thoughts I've learnt that certain self care practices can really help me to distract myself in these times by doing something positive. Therefore, this post is simply a list of things that I find helpful and which may help you to think about what you can do to help yourself.

Thursday, 4 May 2017

Girlhood by Cat Clarke

Rating: 9/10
Published: 4th May 2017
Publisher: Quercus
Pages: 342
Synopsis from Goodreads: 
Real, compulsive and intense: Cat Clarke is the queen of emotional suspense. For fans of Paula Hawkins, Gillian Flynn, Megan Abbott and Jandy Nelson.
Harper has tried to forget the past and fit in at expensive boarding school Duncraggan Academy. Her new group of friends are tight; the kind of girls who Harper knows have her back. But Harper can't escape the guilt of her twin sister's Jenna's death, and her own part in it - and she knows noone else will ever really understand.
But new girl Kirsty seems to get Harper in ways she never expected. She has lost a sister too. Harper finally feels secure. She finally feels...loved. As if she can grow beyond the person she was when Jenna died.
Then Kirsty's behaviour becomes more erratic. Why is her life a perfect mirror of Harper's? And why is she so obsessed with Harper's lost sister? Soon, Harper's closeness with Kirsty begins to threaten her other relationships, and her own sense of identity.
How can Harper get back to the person she wants to be, and to the girls who mean the most to her?

A darkly compulsive story about love, death, and growing up under the shadow of grief

A big thanks to Hachette Children's Group and NetGalley for providing me with a digital copy of this book for review.

Little did I know until I picked up Girlhood three days ago, that my heart was yearning to read a boarding school book. Having loved Mallory Towers when I was younger and secretly wishing I could go there (as I think everyone who read it did!), a book set in a grand old boarding school in Scotland was the perfect fit for me straight away!

Girlhood follows the life of Harper who lost her twin sister to a battle with anorexia, as she struggles with the grief of moving through life without the person who she thought would be by her side for everything. It's a heartbreaking read in that sense because it's something that really does affect a lot of people and doesn't get a great deal of attention in the sensitive way that it should, this book looks at it as well as any book can, in my opinion.

A new girl comes to the school, called Kirsty, she and Harper seem to share a lot of similarities as the discussing having both lost siblings and how they are dealing with grief. Throughout the book it becomes apparent that there is a lot more to Kirsty's story than she's saying and as things gradually come to light (to the reader if not to Harper!) a great sense of mystery arises which meant I was absolutely whizzing through the pages, I needed to know what had happened!

The other thing that I loved about Girlhood is that it features a bisexual main character who is written super duper well and who's validity isn't questioned other than occasionally by other girls who don't quite understand yet (as is the way in real life). There is also a lesbian character too and the bi girl and the gay girl aren't a couple because they're the only non-hetero main characters, they're friends and it's so refreshing to see.

Overall, Girlhood is a brilliantly quick read which deals with a lot of difficult issues in a way that's respectful. Without spilling a lot of spoilers, it demonstrates the value of friendship and the importance of showing kindness towards people even though they may not wholly deserve it. Grief is a horrible thing and certainly a tricky subject to write about but Cat Clarke manages to represent both the differences and similarities between two characters' experiences in a way that is both intense and truthful. I truly enjoyed every page and I'd really recommend that everyone gives it a go.

Let me know what you thought of Girlhood, or recommend me any similar books which come to mind in the comments below.

Wednesday, 3 May 2017

TBR - May 2017




Girlhood by Cat Clarke
This was my first ever approved read on NetGalley (woop woop I'm so pleased!!), it's published on the 4th of May and I'm hoping I'll be able to whizz through it and get a review done asap (I'm cheating a bit as I've already started as I write this but I started it in May and I'm late on this post so it counts right?!). Anyway it sounds super duper promising and the first chapter hooked me it so fast so let's see what happens (and look out for a review!).

The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas
Do I even need to say why I want to read this? I've been excited about it for months and I haven't bought it yet but hopefully I'll get my hands on it so soon. I know it won't let me down because everyone says its phenomenal!

A Court of Mist and Fury by Sarah J Maas
As ACOWAR came out yesterday it seems like a good time for me to start catching up! I loved ACOTAR but there were a few bits that left me feeling a bit "?????" but I think they get sorted out so hopefully I'll enjoy it a lot!

A Quiet Kind of Thunder by Sara Barnard
Again, I'm late to this one, but having heard such good things about this, and having loved Beautiful Broken Things I'm sure this won't disappoint. It sounds like a really interesting concept and having started to learn sign language at the beginning of this year reading a book with a deaf MC sounds like good fun!

Countless by Karen Gregory
I'm so intrigued by what this book will be like. It sounds like it may be a difficult read because it's got a lot of intense stuff in it (judging from the synopsis!). If its done well I think it could be really important and I'm hoping that I'll love it. I haven't read many books that look at eating disorders and I think it may be a difficult thing to do well but Countless sounds as though it has a lot of potential.





What are you planning to read this month? Any of these? Happy reading whatever you pick up!

Friday, 21 April 2017

See How They Lie by Sue Wallman

Rating: 8/10
Published: 2nd March 2017
Publisher: Scholastic
Pages: 312
Synopsis from Goodreads:
All’s not well at the Hummingbird Creek wellness resort. No one can see in. No one can get out… 
New from the talented author who brought you Lying About Last Summer: a psycho-chiller to wake up your darkest phobias. If you got to live in a luxury hotel with world-class cuisine, a state-of-the-art sports centre and the latest spa treatments, would you say ‘yes please’? 

Well, that’s kind of what Hummingbird Creek is like. No wonder Mae feels lucky to be there. It’s meant as a rich-kid’s sanatorium, but she isn’t sick. Her dad is the top psychiatrist there. But one day Mae breaks a rule. NOT a good idea. This place is all about rules – and breaking them can hurt you…


I picked up See How They Lie from the library the day before going off on a walking holiday in the Lake District. I had no idea what to expect but having heard good stuff about Lying About Last Summer I was really looking forward to this and it was truly good fun!

It's a difficult book to review because if I say too much I might risk spoiling people which I really don't want to do, so please pardon the somewhat short length of this review - it doesn't reflect how few thoughts I have about it but rather how much I really can't say without ruining the mystery!!

The plot of See How They Lie was super duper creepy, definitely earning itself a seat in the thriller genre! Although it was clear a lot of dodgy stuff was going on the mystery kept me guessing right up until the end and I loved every minute of it! So often the twists in thrillers are easy to guess which kind of defeats the object, so reading something that kept me questioning was fab! So many times I was shocked, looking at what I'd just read and going:

Sue Wallman managed to create a really beautiful setting in Hummingbird Creek, I could really see myself in the book and I really found myself emerged in the setting which added to the suspense and meant I was absolutely flying through the pages.

I'd certainly recommend See How They Lie to anyone looking for something a bit different from the usual young adult contemporary. I haven't read many young adult thriller style books before but I'll certainly be looking out for more of a similar style in the future!

Overall, See How They Lie was just jolly good fun! A really creepy story that I whizzed through in no time at all. I'd definitely suggest that you give it a try, even if you think it's not your thing it may well surprise you.

Have you read See How They Lie? Or know of any similar Young Adult Thrillers? Let me know in the comments below.

Monday, 3 April 2017

TBR - April 2017

And so my second ever April in the book blogging world begins!
And what a good selection of books I have for this month!

Asking for It by Louise O'Neill
This has been on my TBR for a long time and it seems like a really important read. I'm very confident that it's going to wreck me, but I'm also very excited about it.

What We Left Behind by Robin Talley
I've not heard very much about this but it sounds really really promising, I love Robin Talley's writing and there different gender symbols that are all over the cover are making me look like this: ðŸ˜Ž.

See How They Lie by Sue Wallman
This is a random grab from the library because I'm going away for a week and need plenty of books! Seems like it'll either be really interesting or very unoriginal? I'm hoping for the former, obviously!

George by Alex Gino
This has been loosely on my TBR for a while, I keep looking at it and thinking I'll love it (trans rep, hello!) and as I just said I needed books for my holiday and there it was in the library so it's time for me to read it!

Optimists Die First by Susin Nielsen
Either going to be a "girl who's problems are fixed by a boy" book, in which case I'll roll my eyes very loudly,  or it'll be a really positive book that I'll really love! Only time will tell!


What's on you TBR for April? Any of these? Have a good month of reading whatever you pick up!